Focus on the Positive
“The power of positive thinking” is a well-known axiom that was made famous by Dale Carnegie. Many motivational speakers have used this axiom – and people have benefited from it.
What we choose to think determines what we do. In the Sacred Word this principle is stated as: “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7, New King James Version).
The following poem illustrates the importance of focusing on the positive:
Thinking
If you think you are beaten – you are.
If you think you dare not – you don’t,
If you’d like to win, but think you can’t
It’s almost a cinch you won’t.
If you think you’ll lose – you’ve lost
For out in the world we find,
Success begins with a fellow’s will
It’s all in the state of mind. …
…
If you think you’re outclassed, you are
You’ve got to think high to rise,
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But sooner or later the man who wins
Is the one who thinks he can!
― Walter D. Wintle (written in the late 19th or early 20th century)
After suffering the anguish of having been scammed – and allowing time for whatever grieving is needed – a positive attitude will be important in recovery.
In the end, we are responsible for controlling our own destiny – achieved first through developing a positive attitude, then taking needed action to deal with our challenges, and making changes to improve our lives. Simply running from difficulties and quitting is never the solution for putting our potential into action – and fulfilling our dreams and goals.
Henry Ford once aptly stated the importance of a positive attitude: “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right!”
Overcoming the loss, hopelessness, helplessness, and depression following a serious scam is not easy – however, if we can in time adopt a positive attitude, we will be impressed with what we can yet do. And, the scam will not remain as a bad and painful memory, but a springboard to greater success and fulfillment in life.
A positive attitude and view will prevent two pitfalls of dealing with a scam – trying desperately to change the depressing situation of a scam, or letting the situation determine who we are.
Rather, a positive outlook will help us to realize that trials and tribulations are an inevitable part of life – and will help us to persevere through those trials, including the scamming we have encountered.
In summary, we need to see all the good in any situation, and focus on that.
In closing, the Sacred Word gives timeless advice in fostering a positive attitude in our lives: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” (New International Version).
Alexander and Eva Peck